The heart of her book is chapter 9: "Do-Me Feminists and Doom-Me Feminism." In this chapter Liebau gets right down to the basics. She briefly explains the waves of feminism and the progress each wave has made. This creates an opening to share the crux of her book, her main point: "When much of the media sends a message that a young girl's primary objective should be to elicit lustful reactions from men, is that really empowerment? When young girls are offering blow jobs to their male classmates in school bathrooms, gyms, and parking lots, is that really liberation?" (184).
No it is not.
And I have to agree with her.
Certainly women today have the ability of choice. Long ago the power of choice traditionally belonged to a man. But what is this thing that is so great that women now have the choice over? "Which boy she's going to approach and desperately hopes to please? And even if a boy does, in fact, decide he "likes" her, what, exactly, does that mean? That he's willing to "hang out" with her? Or that he'll "hook up" with her?" (p.185). And if he does decide to "hook up" what ends up happening with the girls? Plenty of girls are offering no-strings attached sex. So why would guys go out of the way to court a women, have interest in a relationship, or please a woman? Still girls, even with the power of "do-me" feminism, have no power. In fact, they have even less. Men still have the choice of deciding if they are interested in a girl (espeically since girls are the ones approaching men).
So basically, in order to truly be able to be sexual a woman must isolate sex and emotions, she must be a man. This is the most ridiculous contradiction I've ever seen. Today's feminism is basically saying that in order to achieve liberation and equality a woman has to become a man. Women have to get rid of all things truly feminine (ex. emotions, motherly attitudes...) and put on the things men deem feminine (ex. short skits, bare stomachs, tight shirts, revealing tops etc.).
'Do-me' feminism has back fired. It "hasn't prevented women from being treated like sex objects-it just means that women themselves are doing the objectifying" (p.194). By practicing 'do-me' feminism women run serious risks:
- increased probability of getting sexually transmitted disease and unwanted pregnancy
- the prospect of being a spinster because why would a man need to promise fidelity if there are plenty of willing women out there
- the complete lack of respect and eventual contempt for all women kind because women will willingly satisfy their desires for nothing in return
- bad sex because women are not like men, they are not 'turned on' the same way and thus cannot orgasm the same way (this biological difference is partly the reason why there is no Viagra for women)
So exactly what kind of woman should a woman aim to be?
